Why you need to surround yourself with people who light you up!


Check in that your social group is serving you on your way to success.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.

As we go through life we and have a range of experiences, we connect to different people and spend time with people and colleagues from various social and cultural backgrounds. Those we encounter have a variety of habits and beliefs.

Our biggest influencers were, of course, our families, their view of the world and the way they did relate to us. If you are interested in self-development, there is a high chance that you are searching for some more great people to surround yourself with.A peer group which lifts you up challenges you to become the best version of yourself and who want to see you happy and prosperous. Who makes you aware of ideas and concepts that you couldn't even have vaguely come up with yourself - who give you lightbulb moments!

I had consciously changed my peer group a little while ago when I noticed some of my girlfriends had beliefs and habits which prevented me from growing as a person. It was a little bit uncomfortable at times, but ultimately I am okay with it, and I have made space to attract new people into my life.

It's an enjoyable and exciting journey, this transformation to becoming your best self! The incredible Esther Hicks from Abraham Hicks Publications (check them out on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlNmsRt7tx4) explains in her playful and highly creative way that deciding what you want is the fasted way to manifesting success and our big dreams. Esther says that it's good for us to have a comparison of what we want and what we don't want to make decisions. What is keeping us in limbo, however, is what she calls a "split energy" where people continuously don't allow themselves pleasure and success. Continually being ambivalent if we want success / a relationship/ a new career/ a new level of physical fitness or if we are not prepared to work for it, really want it, are afraid of it or just too lethargic for it. Using language for both scenarios in one conversation, ( aargh, exhausting!) well that isn't going anywhere fast, is it? Are you still available to spend time with people like this? Are you doing it because you feel mean to quit seeing them, you feel sorry for them, or you get something out of it? Is that compassionate?

Talking about what we desire, asking others how we can get to our goal and being inspired by our peer group is vital.

Do you remember the last time you sat with a friend who said something to you that was new and inspiring to you, that expanded your thinking and energized you? It's those conversations that bring you forward rather than talking about what you don't like in others or what annoys you.

Choose pleasant thoughts that will lead you to where you want to be - may it be to be more peaceful, more prosperous and more relaxed. I can tell you here and then that you will have more and more of those wanted experiences!

Napoleon Hill (Author of Think and grow rich) and Jack Canfield have both advocated the idea of forming a Mastermind group. A Mastermind group consists of about five people with whom you regularly meet to share and discuss business and visionary thinking ideas in a formal way, in a committed way. I currently am a member of 2 mastermind groups and have had exponential personal growth and fun from both of them!

My Mastermind peers are the friends and visionaries who make me expand, inspire me and show me how it's done. Let's gravitate towards where the action is and where ideas can grow into beautiful results! Please share with us your results; we are very eager to hear about them and your wins.

Have a brilliant week, Siska x


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